An explanation of life on a tv set
…in light of the fandom meltdown over Stana 'not being invited to Nathan's birthday party' and the conclusion that they hate each other (yet again). I thought I’d use my acting experience to explain some things.
Common Sense (and some research) will tell Nathan and Stana don’t hate each other.
Here is the thing about show business. People talk all the time. I only ever entered the professional arena for summer stock shows, but I saw first hand how people don’t get booked for jobs because of behavior/interactions on previous shows. Likewise, a friend of mine who has steady employment on TV actually booked a guest spot on a pretty popular cable show over a much bigger ‘name’ because that name had a diva reputation and the director of the episode didn’t want to work with them. Your best bet as an actor, beyond being talented and committed to your work, is to be a kind person. Even if you are a jerk in reality, you’d best be polite and kind to everyone you meet on a set. If you make things difficult? People will remember and, worse, they will walk off the set and talk about it at dinner to a friend, or on the phone at the grocery store. Usually they talk to their buddies in the business, who talk to other friends, and eventually you are difficult to work with and people become wary of casting you (the most notorious example right now would be Katherine Heigl).
So, how does this relate to Nathan and Stana? It’s quite simple. Think back to a report of bad behavior from either of them on any set, at any point in their career. You’ll come up empty. Know why? Because they aren’t difficult people. The attitude on a set or a show begins with the leading players. If they are gracious and kind, the rest of the actors and the crew fall into line. You will have bad apples who spoil it, you’ll have days when everyone is short with one another, but that’s merely life. It’s not the attitude of the actors on a daily basis.
The Castle set is a happy one. Everyone from the personal assistant to the showrunner is thrilled to go to work.